Parent advisory council

FRIENDS has established a Parent Advisory Council to provide useful overall program direction and guidance to the activities of the National Center. Committee members share their experience and expertise in child abuse prevention and family strengthening through their active participation in FRIENDS workgroups and the annual Grantee’s meeting, development/review of FRIENDS written materials, and by providing resource center staff with consultation and advice.

Region 1

Jo Modeste (CT)
Joe Whitmore (ME)

Region 2

Michael Cupeles (NJ)
David Armstrong (NJ)
Eileen Graham PAC Mentor (NY)
Melba Marcela Henao, PAC Alumni (NJ)

Region 3

Elizabeth Reddick (DC)
Eliza Cooper, PAC Alumni (MD)
Stephanie Eckhart, PAC Alumni (MD)

Region 4

Anntoinette Johnson (TN)
Dana Gardner (SC)
Kayla Etie (AL)
Vadonna Williams, PAC Alumni (AL)
Bruce Bynum, PAC Alumni (SC)
Sam Bowman Fuhrmann, PAC Alumni (NC)
Valerie Lebanion, PAC Alumni (KY)
Beth Stodghill, PAC Alumni (TN)

Region 5

Joanne Hodgeman, PAC Alumni (MN)
Brook Hoffbauer, PAC Alumni (MN)
Anthony Queen, PAC Alumni (MI)

Region 6

Paula Bibbs-Samuels (TX)
Raven Sigure, PAC Alumni (LA)

Region 7

Ashley Schmit (NE)
Nathan Voss (KS)
Sam Blue, PAC Alumni (MO)
Jessica Diel, PAC Alumni (MO)

Region 8

Region 9

Melissa Zimmerman, PAC Alumni (AZ)
Art Hernandez, PAC Alumni (CA)

Region 10

Ashley Cox (WA)
Matthew Porter (OR)
Heather Stenson, PAC Alumni (WA)
Jill Gentry, PAC Alumni (OR)
Fatima Gonzalez-Galindo, PAC Alumni (WA)
Dawn Patzer, PAC Alumni (WA)

Members of the team include:

David Armstrong

David Armstrong (NJ) is married to his high school sweetheart and has two adult daughters, a teen and young adult grandson (legal guardian), who was diagnosed with special health care needs at an early age. David volunteers with Parent Partner on the Essex County/NJ state Early Childhood Comprehensive Systems COIIN team to support systems in becoming more father friendly.  He is a state and national trainer, serves as a parent liaison, and strives to educate, empower, engage, and encourage parents to take an active role in their children’s development and well-being. He is a certified, trained facilitator for National Fatherhood Initiative’s 24/7 Dads, and Fathering in 15™, and is also trained in parent cafés.  David collaborates with other family leaders across the country to bring families together to increase their collective voices and advocate for policies and educational research that promote the well-being of young children and their families regardless of race, religion, or socioeconomic status.  David continually looks for more ways to expand his leadership capacity to engage, educate, and empower fathers and grandfathers to become more involved in the well-being of their children’s/grandchildren’s life, starting from when they are born or even prenatally, so those children can experience better outcomes and reach their full potential.

Paula Bibbs-Samuels

Paula Bibbs-Samuels (TX) has over 20 years of parent leadership experience which includes serving as a commissioner for the Texas Children’s Commission for two terms, a parent liaison for the Texas Parent Collaboration Council, and Region 1 Parent Liaison. Paula is currently working with Thriving Families, Safer Children Phase II to help bring attention to and eradicate racial inequities within systems. Paula has helped review, write, and contribute to different articles and publications regarding children, families, and the practices and procedures of the child welfare system. Paula, a Licensed Professional Counselor, continues to work in parent leadership efforts within birth, foster, and kinship families. Paula is a mother of 7 as a result of a blended family, and a former kinship placement.

Paula has been an exciting, engaging, and truth talking public speaker for over twenty years, serving on panels, speaking at conferences and where invited. In this capacity she has created an atmosphere to learn and find comfort with being uncomfortable.

Paula participates on several workgroups and committees addressing racial disparities, disparate representation and treatment, prevention methods, and improving practice and procedure to make lives better for children and families. Paula expresses that the work she does for families is her passion. Helping others is her drive.

Ashley Cox

Ashley Cox (WA) is a single mom to a beautiful young daughter and is a long-time advocate for children and families. Ashley began her advocacy journey as a youth leader working as a Senate Page at the state Capitol in Washington, testifying on behalf of children’s health care, access to dental care and breakfast after the bell. After Ashley became a mother, she realized how many more challenges families faced finding affordable childcare and accessing resources for mental health, especially around Post-Partum Depression. Through her experience growing up as the 6th sibling of a blended and host foster family, Ashley has identified the need for systems’ improvement. Now, as a mother, Ashley doesn’t want her daughter to have to navigate the situations that create high ACEs scores and she involves herself in advocacy efforts to support healthy families. Ashley advocated for access to healthy meals in her small rural community by getting a local meat shop to accept SNAP benefits and recently was selected to attend the Anti-Hunger Summit in Washington, DC. Ashley is a Washington State Parent Ambassador alumnus, a full-time student, and continues to be an advocate for protecting children in any way, shape, or form.

Michael Cupeles

Michael Cupeles (NJ) is a champion of early childhood education, paternity, family, and community. Michael focuses on Fatherhood and is Nationally Certified through Fathers & Families Coalition of America and National Fatherhood Initiative. As an ordained minister and chaplain, his passion is to stand up for human rights. Michael is the Coordinator of the Men’s Initiative at Gateway Community Action Partnership Early Head Start & Head Start. He serves on school boards and is a board member of the New Jersey Local Selective Service System Region 1, and a member of the New Jersey Department of Children & Family, Office of Family Voice Fatherhood Engagement Committee acting as a Liaison to the New Jersey Head Start Association.

Michael is a Community Liaison for the New Jersey Coalition to End Domestic Violence under the Men of Courage Network. He has been a presenter, facilitator, and co-facilitator for Alia and the State of Ohio Children Trust Fund, the Children’s Bureau, the FRIENDS National Center for Community-Based Child Abuse Prevention, the Region II Head Start Association, the New Jersey Head Start Association, and Mercer County Family Support Organization, and the Family Success Centers. Michael is the Managing Partner of Unified Family Dynamics Consultants. Michael is also the VP/Chief Strategy Planning and Development Officer for Latino X Radio, a non-profit in New Jersey. His heart and passion are to see community grow as we walk together through the human experience that we like to call life.

Kayla Starr Etie

Kayla Starr Etie (AL) is an energetic full-time single mother of two who was born and raised in Northwest Alabama. She is a founding member of the Alabama Parent Advisory Council and the first parent leader to manage the Alabama PAC. Kayla is a part of the Alabama Parent Leadership Network as a parent leader in her district and is the first and only Alabama parent certified to facilitate the Strengthening Families Framework training. Shelovesserving on nonprofit boards focused on environment and community outreach, and is the President of the Sheffield Beautification and Tree Board and Secretary of Keep The Shoals Beautiful. In addition, Kayla also facilitates a school-based leadership program, The Rescue Me Project, geared towards youth outreach and community service.

After walking away from an abusive relationship and facing homelessness, Kayla sought help, landing her in a safety plan with DHR. She recognized there was significant potential for improvement in these systems. While being involved with DHR, she attended a parenting class and soon after was nominated to serve on the Parent Advisory Council.

With life experience involving domestic violence, mental health, and the welfare system, Kayla is now an advocate for caregivers facing challenges, working to support and empower them on their path towards wellbeing while also continuing her healing journey and actively recovering from mental health issues. When she isn’t working or volunteering, you can find her out in her community or in the forest. Kayla believes that the most effective way to teach your children core values and empathy is by setting the example.

Dana Gardner

Dana Gardner (SC) is a parent and FamilyVoice Leader with Safe Babies Court, advocating for families to have a second chance at permanency with their children. She worked with the Safe Babies Court Team for two years in both Orangeburg and Charleston Counties, where she focused on supporting families in achieving reunification and permanency. Additionally, Dana volunteers within her community, dedicating her time to supporting efforts that create meaningful change. She is pursuing a social work degree and is passionate about making systemic changes that prioritize family preservation. Dana also enjoys connecting with people, socializing, and spending her free time exploring adventures and watching mystery shows. Danalooks forward to her role as a member of the FRIENDS National Center for Community-Based Child Abuse Prevention (CBCAP) Parent Advisory Council, where she will utilize her experience and voice to support family and community strengthening efforts.

Eileen Graham

Eileen Graham (GA) is the Founder of Perfect Solutions, Products & Services, providing professional consulting services and products. Eileen is a proud parent and passionate leader; dedicated to collaborating and partnering with local, state and federal leaders to improve families and communities. She has been sharing her knowledge and expertise with business executives, city officials, politicians, and influential community leaders in the Rochester, NY and Greater Atlanta areas for over 20 years. Ms. Graham is a member of the Parent Advisory Council with FRIENDS National Center for Community Based Child Abuse Prevention. Ms. Graham is currently serving as an Adoption Case Manager Specialist for Georgia Division of Family and Children Services (DFCS). Eileen has a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and is currently working on launching a family board game that she believes will eventually become a household name.

Anntionette Johnson

Anntionette Johnson (TN) is a native Memphian, parent to six, grandparent of one. She recently retired and will start to devote more time advocating for foster parents, children, and the voiceless community. Anntionette has been a foster parent for nineteen years and serves as a trainer for potential foster to adopt parents. She currently serves as Co-chairperson for Nurture the Next and is a Parent Leader.

Jo Modeste

Jo Modeste (CT) is a graduate of the Parent Leadership Training Institute and a Parent Ambassador at the Alliance for Bloomfield’s Children in Connecticut. She has over 10 years of experience working with parents, families, and individuals as an agent of support and guidance. In 2024, Modeste became a Children’s Trust Fund Alliance Trainer, and strives to bring the Protective Factors Framework to life in her work. She has additional expertise in areas of self-care curriculum building, health literacy, and contract negotiation.

Jo is the co-founder of Align and Elevate, a self-care initiative that presents workshops on Boundary Intelligence and Cultural Responsiveness to burnout. She is especially sensitive to the needs of parents and caregivers, and encourages this population to prioritize having healthy boundaries, curate a sustainable self-care plan, and to show up in every area of their lives authentically. Jo is also passionate about elevating the standard of business messaging, and serves as an editing, writing, and branding analyst at Jo Modeste Consulting, LLC.

She is at peace when having raw and emotionally risky discussions, many of which revolve around protected classes, honoring personal boundaries, and living in the absence of pretense.

Matthew Porter

Matthew Porter (OR) is a married father of 4 children. As a parent having experienced the child welfare system firsthand, Matthew has found his calling as a Peer Supervisor for Morrison Child & Family Services. By utilizing the tools he’s acquired, Matthew uses his own experience to help other fathers of color advocate for themselves and navigate the child welfare system. Matthew is a member of the Parent’s Advisory Council (PAC) through Morrison along with being on the Father’s Advisory Board (FAB). Matthew’s passion has been to add a father’s perspective and voice to different branches of Department of Human Services in Multnomah County, OR. Matthew is also a Certified Recovery Mentor will soon be as certified as a Family Support Specialist. Matthew is motivated by supporting families that have children with varying needs and giving hope to parents who are struggling. Matthew and his family live in Beaverton, OR.

Elizabeth Reddick

Elizabeth Reddick (Washington, DC) is a military veteran, mother of five, and Disability Rights Advocate. She is the Youth Work Group Leader of the Family and Youth Committee of the DC Coordinating Council of School Behavioral Health, where she focuses on amplifying youth voices. As a member of DC’s Protection & Advocacy for Individuals with Mental Illness (PAIMI) Advisory Council, Ms. Reddick strives to hold agencies responsible for providing equitable systems of care while creating inclusive and safe spaces. She is also a Parents Amplifying Voices in Education (PAVE) Ward 7 PLE Board Member. Ms. Reddick is trained in trauma-informed care and Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). As a Peer Support person, she believes in sharing lived experiences, reducing stigma, and fostering an environment where self-care includes mental and behavioral health resources.

Ashley Schmit

Ashley Schmit (NE) is a mother of five who resides in Lincoln, Nebraska. When it comes to working as a parent leader, Ashley describes having a zealous heart for any work that brings partners together to have conversations about the promotion of family and child well-being. She is especially interested in partnerships that result in solution creation, positive change, and community innovation that directly affect those most impacted by disparities related to poverty, racial, and social injustice. Since 2017, she has served as a Parent Leader, Lived Prevention Support and Experience Expert, former member of the Local Community Action Partnership Executive Board, 5 years serving Former Chair and Parent Representative on the Local Head Start Program Policy Council and Nebraska Community Response Panels as well as roles on various Nebraska steering committees. Ashley has a Nursing Degree and practiced nursing for 10 years.

Nathan Voss

Nathan Voss (KS) is a dedicated father, parent educator, and passionate advocate for parents within his community. Drawing from his own experiences as a formerly incarcerated individual, Nathan utilizes his journey to connect with and support others empathetically. His primary mission is to work with families, especially fathers, to bolster and enrich family relationships.

Nathan’s impactful journey began with the establishment of Oxford Houses for men and children, providing fathers a supportive environment for recovery from substance abuse disorders while nurturing their relationships with their children. These peer-supported, self-governing communities offered a unique blend of communal living and self-help.

Currently, Nathan is a Parent Educator with the Kansas Children’s Service League. In this role, he helps parents develop leadership skills through positive parenting programs and fatherhood support groups. Nathan is committed to ensuring parents feel heard, supported, and empowered.

In his personal life, Nathan enjoys spending quality time with his children and is currently pursuing a Bachelor of Social Work degree at Washburn University.

Joe Whitmore

Joe Whitmore (ME) is a proud father and member of the Penquis Prevention Council Parent Leadership team. Joe is a member of Maine’s Prevention Mindset Institute team, as well as other local, State and National efforts to support families to prevent child abuse. Joe is also a facilitator in the Nurturing Fathers program.

In addition to the work Joe does with the Prevention Council, he enjoys being a positive part of the community by helping other parents achieve their potential as parents and individuals. Joe uses his voice as a parent to help improve the lives of parents and children and serves on state and national committees. Joe also works with child protective service organizations, providing his perspective experience to new case managers. Joe has over 20 years’ experience supporting families at the grassroots level and 2 years professionally. He is a strong advocate, stepping forward to embrace becoming nurturing, supportive, and loving fathers.